As we enter the time of year where hearts, roses, chocolate covered candy, and expressions of love are at an all time high I want to encourage you to love on yourself. Oftentimes, spending time to truly cherish, sit with, and love ourselves gets overshadowed by the highlight of Valentines Day.

In the book The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman he dives into how couples experience and express love through these languages. In the same way the love languages can help us navigate our romantic relationships they can also help us navigate how we take care of ourselves.

If you’re familiar with the 5 love languages I’m curious if your self love language is similar or different than your romantic love language. If you have no idea what your love language is take the quiz here to see if you’re more aligned with acts of service, physical touch, quality time, receiving gifts, or words of affirmation?

Acts of service

Is making your life easier at the top of your list? If so, activities such as making a schedule, decluttering your things, going to therapy, or outsourcing might be how you show yourself love regularly.

Physical touch

Do you carry stress or tension in your body? Aching shoulders, tight jaws, clenched fist, tension headaches, or soreness. If so, physical touch might be your self love language. Doing activities that make your body feel good like exercising, getting a massage, taking long showers, receiving a facial, wrapping yourself in a fuzzy blanket, or stretching your body can help ease and relax your stress filled body.

My body is always going through it, so, physical touch is almost always on the top of my list.

Quality time

Being around friends and family is great, but how often do you have time to yourself? Some of us recharge by spending time alone meditating, being creative, relaxing, going on a solo lunch date, snuggling up with a book, or watching our favorite show.

Receiving gifts

Treat yo’self! You don’t have to wait for someone to purchase that product or in my case a plant, send you on a vacation, or make that investment in yourself. In fact, if you love receiving gifts there is nothing wrong with spoiling yourself from time to time.

Words of affirmation

Are you your own personal hype man? Reciting affirmations, giving yourself pep talks, journaling, and being mindful of your self talk are signs words of affirmation might be your love language.

What’s your #1 self love language? Mine is almost always physical touch. I find this interesting because physical touch ranked fairly low when I took the general quiz.

Even though physical touch is what I need majority of the time I believe in giving my mind and body what it needs. I fluctuate between all the love languages depending on the day, week, and minute.

So, cheers to a happy love season, and loving on yourself as much as you love on others.

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