Welcome back to the blog! If you haven’t already guessed from the title of today’s post I have a little announcement to make…
Remember back in January when I said I was beyond exhausted… well now you know why. So, naturally I want to share a little bit about the similarities and differences between my first and second pregnancies.
Let’s get into the Then versus the Now.
Taking the test
When did you decide to take a pregnancy test? With Remy I took my first test after my third night of vomiting. Since I didn’t vomit consecutively I didn’t think I was pregnant. So, long story short, I ended up taking four tests… and they ALL came back positive. I know, I know four tests was a bit much, but I needed some time for it to sink in.
This time around my willingness to take a test changed significantly. So, all it took was a casual suggestion from my husband, and next thing I knew I was staring at a positive pregnancy test in disbelief. I mean, I was so willing to take the test because I didn’t think I was pregnant. This time around I only took one test… I can admit I was being extra during my first pregnancy. Four tests was a bit much.
I have been blessed. During my first pregnancy I experienced what I consider minimal symptoms such as vomiting no more than 5x, nausea when hungry, lots & lots of face acne, migraines, constipation, and round ligament pain around 8 1/2 months. Where as this time around I’ve experienced even fewer symptoms such as vomiting only one time so far, nausea when hungry, body acne, round ligament pain, and pubic pain(my pubic bone may have been cracked while giving birth to Remy but that’s a post for another day). In order to decrease my symptoms this time around I continued to eat fruit daily and drink coffee. I was not a fan of the migraines I experienced while carrying Remy; therefore, I opted to decrease my coffee intake instead of cutting myself off cold turkey. As for the round ligament pain… it is pretty awful this time around. So, I am strategic about finding moments throughout the day to sit down and rest. Of course these moments are short lived and done in between chasing Remy around the house.
It’s interesting, but my doctors appointments from my 1st and 2nd pregnancies have mirrored each other. I found out I was pregnant with Remy 2 days before my husband left for a 90 day deployment; therefore, I attended new parent orientations, doctor appointments, and a breastfeeding class alone. This time around I was only allowed one guest at my first and 20 week appointments, and am required to wear a mask the entire time. Unfortunately, since we’re new to the area and our support network is limited I had to attend my first appointment alone. Luckily, my parents came to visit last week and watched Remy so George could attend the ultrasound appointment. Outside of this appointment he won’t be in the room with me until it’s time to deliver.
Since George was overseas during the beginning of my pregnancy with Remy, I developed some helpful habits I’ve continued to use this time around. Before doctor appointments I ask for his input & questions, ask my medical providers LOTS of general questions, and since my memory isn’t the greatest I keep track of this information in the notes section of my phone. If you’re interested in additional ways to involve your spouse in your appointments I have friends who had their partners on face time during their appointments.
Physical & Mental
Now let’s get into the mental and physical changes that occurred during my pregnancies. During my first pregnancy I felt great despite the few symptoms I shared earlier. I worked full-time in my 9-5, part-time in my private practice, worked out 2x a week with a friend & trainer, attended two majorette style workout classes per week, brunched on the weekends, went to concerts, ate out, and did whatever my little heart desired. It felt good to be out and about, and to workout until I was approximately 8 1/2 months pregnant.
That is not the case this time around. During my first trimester I was physically exhausted and mentally drained from surviving and ‘going so hard’ in 2020. I was running off fumes; therefore I did the bare minimum in my full-time gig as a mommy to a rambunctious toddler and part-time in my private practice. I traded in workout classes & training sessions for toddler races, car rides, and light yoga. Now that I’m in the second trimester some of my energy has returned. Unfortunately, along with increased energy came round ligament pain. At approximately 4PM each day (on cleaning days it’s noon) I am wiped out! The entire lower half of my body hurts and periodically cramps. Even though Remy isn’t a big fan, sitting down and resting throughout the day has been a life saver.
I was going to transition into mental, but I can’t move on without addressing weight. During pregnancy #1, I gained a total of 50 lbs almost all in the 3rd trimester, and now I’m currently 21 weeks pregnant and have gained 26 lbs. I’m guessing I’ll gain 50+ pounds this time, but honestly, I have no rhyme or reason behind this theory so we’ll see what happens.
As for my mental state I’ve noticed a lot of similarities between pregnancy 1 & 2. Traditionally, I am pretty cool, calm, and collected and have continued to remain that way during pregnancy. Outside of watching This is Us, which brings me to tears every episode I limit things that may trigger a vast change in my mood such as birthing videos, miscarriage & loss documentaries, or violent videos. During both pregnancies I have continued to be vigilant and mindful of my own mental health, and will continue to do so as I progress into the postpartum period.
When I was pregnant with Remy we didn’t have your typical gender reveal. We lived in Nebraska, my parents live in Alabama, and my in-laws are in South Carolina; therefore, I placed cupcake orders for both families and instructed them to open them once they were all together. Once assembled they recorded themselves opening the boxes revealing cupcakes covered in blue icing. We had a good time looking at their pictures and watching the videos of them screaming. With Baby #2 my mom made a special request for a virtual gender reveal party. So, of course I made it happen… or should I say my line sister made it happen. She sent out the Evite, sent ‘Big Brother’ reveal t-shirts for Remy, and confetti. Even though it was a virtual experience I had a really good time celebrating with our family & friends.
Now let’s talk baby shower. Remy’s baby shower was ABSOLUTELY AMAZING! From the decor, food, minimal games (which I loved), guests, and desserts I couldn’t have asked for a better shower. This time around I’m unsure of what I want to do. Even with the vaccine COVID-19 is still very real so I’m taking some time to decide whether I want a small intimate shower, drive through, or virtual option. I’m only halfway there so I have another month or so before I have to make up my mind. I’m sure whatever I decide it will be just as amazing as our first shower.
No situation and for the sake of this post, pregnancy, is going to be exactly the same, but I am surprised at some of the similarities between pregnancy 1 & 2. Are you a mom of multiples or currently pregnant with another child? What similarities and differences have you noticed in your pregnancies?
Now that baby #2 is public I can’t wait to share more pregnancy related posts with you. Be on the lookout for vital questions to ask your medical team, preparing for life after baby #2, prepping my postpartum care kit, outsourcing, my must have items for baby #2, and whatever else I can think of in between.
See you next time,
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