Welcome back to the blog! This post is a little different because today I want to chat about fashion! I know! A topic I never thought I would hit on, but hear me out. Even though I am no fashionista I’ve always been a firm believer that when you look good you feel good.
So, let me ask you my friend, have you ever noticed an extra pep in your step, peek in the mirror, or glow when you put something on other than your mom uniform? If so, you may have had a boost in your confidence level, because you my friend have just reminded yourself that…
YOU LOOK GOOD!
Our confidence and self-esteem can benefit from being nourished and can use this little boost from time to time. Also, a little trick I’ve learned, this is the perfect time to gather some personalized “I am statements” and affirmations. Since you’re feeling yourself you’ll find them flowing off your tongue easily.
So, how did I get to this place? How did I add prioritizing fashion to my list?
One day after sharing yet another lounge set with a friend she said, “now come on Patience, outside is going to open up again and you need something other than lounge sets.” After I hit buy, because it was too cute to pass up, I thought about it and she was right. Outside is going to open back up and I am going to be forced to put on “real clothes”, but how do I do that?
After two years of slipping into the cycle of wearing black leggings and a black shirt (this is the mom uniform I mentioned), workout clothes, and now a mixture between lounge clothes & the mom uniform I can admit, I have lost my sense of style. In fact, as I started to think back I realized this wasn’t a new problem brought on by the pandemic, but by motherhood. I remembered several times I struggled to dress myself, from a music festival (I went with all black everything), date nights with my hubby, homecoming events (black again), and struggling to find new clothes while out shopping with my mom. Like I said being disconnected from my style has been going on for awhile.
So, as I grow in size with baby #2 I refuse to fall into the same cycle I did after having Remy. Even though styling a baby bump can be difficult I’m up for the challenge. I’m not an expert in fashion, but what I am an expert in is starting routines and practicing strategies. So, that is what I am doing. Here are a few ways I’ve been reconnecting to my sense of style, so I can get out of the habit of wearing, all black everything.
Black is classic, sleek, simple, and easy. But let’s be honest, wearing the same color everyday gets boring; therefore, I’m slowly but surely incorporating more color in my wardrobe. From different color leggings, colorful lounge sets, cardigans, and lipstick adding a little of color goes a long way.
Are you on Pinterest? If so, create an inspiration board, save a post on instagram, or look to some of your stylish family members and friends. Every person we come in contact can be inspiring; therefore, pay attention to what you do and don’t like. As I’m rediscovering my sense of style I appreciate seeing fashion posts as it provides an endless amount of inspiration.
Shop your closet
Just because you’ve lost your sense of style doesn’t mean you don’t have anything in your closet. About a month ago I was asking a friend about a few different looks and I was shocked to find out how many similar pieces I had in my closet. I honestly forgot I owned them because I haven’t had a reason to wear them. So, take a look around and keep what you like and purge what you don’t (or doesn’t fit). You may be shocked at what’s in your closet.
Ask for help
If you’re struggling don’t be afraid to ask for help. I have a few friends that have an eye for fashion. They are usually my go too people for advice. They usually help me put looks together, tell me when something isn’t the best option, or can point me in the direction of what I’m looking for.
Be honest. Reconnecting with yourself takes time, and that includes when you’re deciding who you are as a fashionista. I’ve decided I can feel confident and cute in several different types of clothing from lounge sets & leggings (I add more color now), black (with a lip), jeans, or romper. Looking cute makes me feel connected to myself, but I’m showing myself grace folks.
How has your style changed since becoming a mother. Did you have to take any steps to get your fashion sense back? Share your tips below because we are all trying to figure it out.
See you next time, and don’t forget to get those personalized “I am” statements and affirmations in.
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