Hi friends! Take a moment to think about that one dream, desire, or goal you’ve set for yourself but have yet to pursue. Alright, now that you’ve identified your ‘one thing’, what is stopping you from taking action?
Lack of time, motivation, experience, child care, education, boundaries, or doubting that you can actually pull it off?
Okay, we’re going to take it one step further by listing these reasons out where you can see them. And now, that you’ve created your list it’s time to have a big girl conversation with yourself. In other words I am asking you to give it to yourself straight… NO chaser.
When you look at your list what do you see? A list of legitimate reasons for not pursuing your dreams or a list of excuses?
Throughout the year I’ve done this exercise with myself several times, and in all honesty I did it again earlier this week.
So, join me by going through your list and labeling each reason with a ‘L’ or an ‘E’. An ‘L’ for ‘Legitimate’ or ‘E’ for ‘Excuse’.
Now, that you have labeled your reasons, tell me… what do you see? A list of legitimate reasons for not pursuing your dreams or a list of excuses?
If you found yourself looking at a list of excuses, believe me, you are not alone. Almost every time I do this exercise I am met with a list of excuses as well. Remember when I shared that I did this activity earlier this week? Well, when I created my list I only had one reason for talking myself out of pursuing an upcoming opportunity.
And that reason was... FEAR
When this opportunity appeared in my inbox I stared at it for a few moments before taking a screen shot and sending the picture to a friend with the message, “Thoughts?”
Of course, she was game and thought I should jump on the opportunity, but I was unsure, hesitant, and started to make excuses. So, I did what any reasonable person in my position would do and I jumped in the shower. While I was in there I had a real conversation with myself.
I asked, myself why are you unsure? Why are you hesitating? And the truth is…
It’s not that I’m not prepared, qualified, lacking time, childcare, or the will power to pursue this opportunity, but instead that I am face to face with fear.
Fear of being rejected. Fear of biting off more than I can chew. Fear of succeeding.
I am surrounded by some extraordinary women, but have noticed a common theme amongst us lately. We are limiting our potential, dreams, and mark on the world because we are afraid to put ourselves out there.
So, during the honest conversation I had with myself I acknowledged that I was and am still scared. But you know what? By the end of the conversation I decided that I am going to DO IT ANYWAY. And I am here to encourage you to do the same. Whatever goal, dream, or desire you have set for yourself start taking those steps to pursue it.
One of my favorite quotes is by Erin Hall, “What if I fall? Oh but my darling, what if you fly?”
So, I would like to invite you to join me by pursuing your dreams. Join me by doing it scared.
What goal, dream, or desire have you been putting off because of fear? Share in the comments below.
See you next time,
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